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Take control
of your life

Coaching programs by HC Paschen designed to support men

Too many men
live a life of quiet desperation, and I want that to stop.

Life is a twisted path — it can be brutal, and it can be breathtaking, but it begs us to accept it and live it to its fullest. Isn’t it time to take control of that ride? I am here to help.

I will support you in this journey. With my coaching programs designed for men, I will guide you through divorce, loss, or feeling stuck. I've done the work, and now I want to show you how. Because you deserve to live in the big.

Do you find yourself thinking…

I’ve lost everything:

My career. My home. My family. My path.

I’m totally, completely wounded from what I’ve gone through.

I’m shell-shocked. I’m in agony.

I can’t trust anyone anymore.

I once thought I could: my ex-spouse. Judges. Attorneys. My kids. Even myself.

I was so ill-prepared.

I was educated to trust the system, thinking it would be fair. And it’s not.

I gave up so much in my marriage.

I changed because of the framework of my family and an unhappy marriage. I don’t know myself anymore.

Who do I want to be now?

What are my skills? How can I go forward in my life?

How can I ever love or trust again?

What can I create for my legacy, separate from my divorce?

How do I figure out what I want going forward?

Can I ever be happy again?

You feel lost. I get it. It wasn’t long ago that I was lost.

It’s time to get un-lost. It’s time to find yourself. If I can do it… you can too.

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Divorce is lonely.

I’m here to help.

I will support you in this journey. I didn't have anyone to talk with me or guide me through it. I've done the work and I want to show you how.

Kristin J., AZ

“Such a kind soul and patience to listen, a strong gentle presence.”

Wayne M., South Africa

“Herb has a wonderful grounding personality that enables his clients to feel safe and dig deeply into themselves to effectively heal their unfinished business. I highly recommend Herb as a coach.”

Invictus Coaching for Men

  • Finding your way through the darkness of divorce

    Isolate the darkness: what is currently in your way.

    Tell your divorce story: get it off your chest.

    Learn what parts of your story are serving you and what parts are holding you back: you might be surprised by how YOU might be in your own way.

    Envision the light of your future: there’s hope. I promise.

  • Finding purpose for your unconquerable soul

    Find what makes you unconquerable.

    Find what makes you conquerable.

    Find what you want for the next chapter of your unconquerable life.

    Find your true purpose despite your fears.

Coaching with HC Paschen

  • One-on-one Remote Coaching

    A great way to get into solution-focused Zoom coaching. You can dig in with HC, and discuss problems, issues, and the painful things holding you back in life.

  • One-on-one In-person Coaching

    A private setting for individual 90-minute sessions or individual 2-3 day retreats. Choose from two locations: Hood River, OR, or Whitefish, MT.

  • Remote Group Coaching

    A weekly, 2-hour group Zoom session offering exclusive private group coaching wherein a man has a safe space to open up, begin the mission of self-discovery, and heal.

  • Group Retreat

    This 4-day retreat is a truly rich experience wherein a group of men get together to dig deeply, uncover the past, and experience healing in a safe group environment.

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INVICTUS

“Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul.”

— William Ernest Henley

Live in the big.

It’s time to start healing and get living.

Coaching programs by HC Paschen designed to support men